The Good News about Weight Loss

I wanted to give you some good news straight out of the brilliant mind of Geneen Roth:

“I tell my students that the great blessing of their lives is their relationship with food. I say that we are not going to fix their relationship with food; we are actually going to walk through the door of their eating problem and see what’s behind it. Instead of using food to avoid discomfort, we are going to learn how to tolerate what they believe is intolerable. They stare. They scowl. They whisper to each other. 

Most of my students can’t imagine a world in which they would stop dieting or trying to fix the size of their thighs. It is easier to imagine people coming back from the dead or Brad Pitt asking them to get married than to imagine themselves dropping the war with their bodies. They have whole friendships built on commiserating about the twenty pounds they have to lose and the jeans that are too tight and the latest greatest diets. They fit in by hating themselves. By trying hard and then harder to lose that last twenty, fifty, eighty pounds–and never being able to do it. They are like Sisyphus pushing the boulder up the top of the mountain and almost getting there but never actually arriving.
The great thing about being Sisyphus is that you have your work cut out for you. You always have something to do. As long as you are striving and pushing and trying hard to do something that can never be done, you know who you are: someone with a weight problem who is working hard to be thin. You don’t have to feel lost or helpless because you always have a goal and that goal can never be reached.”
Why is this good news?
 
Because when you really understand the incredible wisdom in those words you can finally stop the insanity of your “work hard for weight loss” pattern and finally subscribe to something that actually works. 
 
The catch you ask?
 
You have to be willing to admit that you are someone who is “…striving and pushing and trying hard to do something that can never be done…”
and “someone with a weight problem who is working hard to be thin. You don’t have to feel lost or helpless because you always have a goal and that goal can never be reached.”
This is an ugly truth for most people but the most freeing truth you can admit to yourself. Ready to get to work love?

 

About The Author

Michelle Hastie

Michelle Hastie is a weight loss coach and author with expertise in personal training, food psychology, neuro-linguistic programming, and yoga. Through her company, Total Body Health Solutions, she is blessed with the gift of helping individuals eat when they are hungry, stop when they are full, and move their bodies without force. She has a master’s degree in human behavior and is pursuing a doctorate in health psychology to further promote the art and science of weight loss through mind-body awareness. Hastie helps people learn to love their bodies and transform their lives through her Absolute Love Publishing books, The Weight Loss Shift: Be More, Weigh Less, The Chakra Secret: What Your Body Is Telling You, and Have Your Cake and Be Happy, Too: A Joyful Approach to Weight Loss. She also is a contributor to the Amazon category bestseller, Women Will Save the World.